I am amazed at how many more healthy changes are possible for people if they stop worrying about what they can’t do. I usually respond to these comments something like this: “That’s fine. I’m not going to try to get you to do that. What would you feel more comfortable changing?”
More often than not, they eventually change what they thought they couldn’t, but it is the result of progressive successes – all in good time! There is a saying that is so appropriate: “Nothing breeds success like success.” I believe it is the feeling of success, not the rate of change, that is most important for changes to keep moving forward.
If you have many opportunities for improving your eating habits, the whole bundle will probably seem overwhelming. I see people who drink nothing but soda and eat little else but processed foods, many of them high in salt, sugar, and fat. The starting point is often choosing one place to start. Maybe that means replacing half of the soda with water; maybe that is all that seems doable at first. That’s OK. I know it is just the beginning, even if they tell me, “I’ll NEVER change THAT!”
Worrying about what we think we should change is unproductive at best. At worst, it can actually inhibit change. As I said, without the worry, a little success just keeps the momentum going. Who knows where you will end up? That’s not the important part. I know it will be in a healthier place!