These are some comments taken from a recent e-mail I received. Are you more like the author of the e-mail or the person she mentions?
Ran into a colleague . . . .As we talked, she said: “you’ve lost weight – how did you do it? I’ve been trying and I’ve lost 15 lbs, but can’t seem to get past that.”Where do I start…I tried to tell her about my experience using a personal trainer; she said she tried that but the trainer wanted her to work on balance and she said, “you don’t understand, . . . I don’t have any balance. That ship has sailed.” The trainer kept attempting, so she decided she was a bad trainer.I tried to tell her about eating whole foods in their original state and passing on processed and fast foods. . .I didn’t get very far. In the end it was all about the problems of post menopausal women and heredity (her mom had the big belly shape) – and there was nothing she could do about it.I wanted to scream. “I’M POST MENOPAUSAL. I HAVE FAT BODIES IN MY FAMILY – I HAD A FAT BODY – I DON’T HAVE A FAT BODY NOW – I HAD NO BALANCE – WHILE NOT PERFECT, I HAVE MUCH IMPROVED BALANCE NOW!!!”But, I knew she really didn’t want to hear it. She wanted to believe there was nothing she could do about it.So, I have to decide how I want to respond to people who bring up the subject with me. I think they’re hoping to hear of some magic formula, and when they don’t hear it in the first 2 minutes – they tune me out.