I married a very, very smart man. Why? He listens to me.
Peter loves to ride his road bike, and he likes to go on long rides, long enough to be “completely worn out.” He knows that going out 2 days in a row will just be too much, yet he has such a hard time resisting the urge to ride when the weather is nice.
After a brutal Wisconsin winter, recent glimpses of spring weather have provided quite a challenge for him, to lay low on alternating days and swim instead. One such day came along last week – sunny, 70-ish, perfect riding weather – and he told me “I might not be able to resist.”
I put in my 2-cents worth. It went something like this: “You have a right to do that.” (In my head I was saying, “You have a right to make an unsupportive choice.”)
I knew he could tell what I was thinking. When I returned home in the middle of the day, I found this note on the counter:
Kim – Went to the club to swim. Listened to my body.
As I said, he is a smart man.
How well do you listen to your body. There are many opportunities to make unsupportive choices, even though we know we won’t feel well later. Being more mindful – without judgment – of what the body really needs can be a doorway to a healthier lifestyle, but only when we realize that we are not “wrong” no matter what we choose. In other words, we need to know we have a choice.