My daughter has a new dog. Dolly is sweet and cuddly, but there are problems with her roaming the house alone. For one thing, there is another dog, one who is not exactly thrilled to have a newcomer taking away her status as “only child.”
Crating Dolly seemed like the answer. It would separate the dogs while my daughter was away, preventing potential conflict. Sounds like a good solution, right? There was only one problem . . . a BIG one. She cannot tolerate the confinement.
When she was left in a wire sided crate, she managed to open the door and get out. My daughter found her loose in the house. The next step was to try a plastic sided crate. She couldn’t open the small door to it, but – believe it or not – she did manage to CHEW through the side of the crate! She literally ate her way out.
Confinement in the house is fine, because it is a bigger space, but that little box was not at all OK with Dolly. After consulting a dog trainer, my daughter was told that she probably cannot be crated.
I could not help but think about how this applies to setting boundaries with eating. We all have a need for some boundaries. Without them, there is no feeling of control at all, and that feels awful. But boundaries that are too confining are miserable and ineffective.
And, like Dolly, when the rules are too rigid, we too will “eat our way out.” We all are different relative to the amount of wiggle room we need, but we are all similar in our need for comfort within the boundaries. Some dogs do fine in crates – in fact they feel cozy and comfortable – while others like Dolly just need more room.
If you often find yourself eating your way out of your eating plan, you may want to ask if you need a different plan. It just makes sense.